Archive for March, 2012
Yes, my husband is Transgender. I have wanted to write about this for some time but I wanted my close family and friends to know before I wrote about it.
Sorry to shock those who didn’t already know.
We have been married 18 years and have 3 wonderful kids together. There were signs early on and we all ignored them, even him.
He was unhappy with himself and depressed. I was unhappy that we couldn’t seem to have a normal relationship. My own behavior at our problems was an issue. I spent many years working on it.
The final stage was when we started going to marriage counseling. I was an emoitional mess and could never figure out what was so wrong with me that my love went on deaf ears.
Through marriage counseling our counselor encouraged him to seek out help for being Transgender. We stopped going to counseling and he was dealing with himself.
I encouraged him to be whomever he wanted to be happy.
The end result is I am moving out. Not because of who he is, but because of the spouse/marriage partner/lover he cannot be. He is letting me go very easily to persue a new life.
So there you have the very basic version. Those who are close know much more. I just fear that he is giving off the impression that I am leaving because of who he is.
Why wouldn’t I stay in the house and he move? Because he “isn’t in an emotional state to deal with moving.” Why not stay until he is? That could take another 18 years for all I know.
All that seems to matter is what he is going through and how hard this is for him.
So, maybe one day I will be more comfortable sharing more about our life together, but for now I think that is enough for the public.
Hoping to find a place soon and move on with my own life. I only hope the best for him but,
I am just trying to live.